Former host of Our Perfect Wedding Kayise Ngqula’s tragic story of loss after her husband died in a car crash last year has touched the hearts of many.
A year later, Ngqula shares how God played a part in her journey of restoration and getting to know herself again, beyond her grief. She is ready to regain her life after pain.
Growing up in a Christian family, Ngqula was raised to know the presence of God. However, when tragedy struck, she found herself questioning her beliefs.
“I became instantly disconnected. I was asking myself how my Creator, the one who created this goodness of me meeting a man who would love me so much, would do this to me.”
It was not until Ngqula surrendered her will to God that her healing began.
“I said to God, I know that the only way I can become whole again is by allowing Your will to be done in my life. I allowed Him to repair me and we are at a good place now.”
Ngqula’s YouTube channel, After Dark with Kayise, is an online talk show about her healing journey.
“South Africa walked this journey of pain and healing with me and they felt it deeply. I needed to come back and say, South Africa, friends, family, thank you! This is what I have been through in the past year and this is what I would like you to know about where I am," Ngqula says.
The actress and TV presenter’s passion for life is driven by envisioning herself after the tragedy, the incredible blessing of motherhood and doing what she loves.
“I was in such deep agony and trauma that I would look at myself in the mirror and not know who I’ve become. I would picture myself beyond the pain and want to be that person who would conquer this. Being given the opportunity to raise my son and see him become his own person each day is also a blessing I do not take lightly. Ultimately, my career is my driving force. I love what I was born to do,” she says.
Set to feature on SABC1’s new drama series titled Amazing Grace, Ngqula will play the character of Sister Palesa, a Christian woman with a heart for God but blindsided by her ambition to be a pastor’s wife.
“Her heart is in a good place but just how far she goes to get what she wants is a mystery. I love that she is grounded and resilient,”
Drawing from her own life, Ngqula’s words of comfort for people who are beginning their own journey of healing is that there is life after tragedy.
“Loss and the journey of grief requires one to be true to themselves. It’s not something to be ashamed of. The course of life is something that we never have answers to, but we need to remind ourselves that whatever happens, we are able to rise above.
“I am still putting back the pieces of my life. I am ready to take on the next best years of my life going forward. My husband and my son would want that for me.”
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